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I hope you and your spouse have been able to reconnect or gain a new perspective during National Marriage Week 2012. I hope you have had time to read the Ebook " Stay Connected" located on the resource page, have had time for that date night, as well as written your Love letter. Each of these things seem small, but each small step help create a better understanding of how to create or maintain "A Loving Lasting Marriage".
Our Last Love Story for National Marriage Week is an Engagement Love Story. To look at marriage from a pre-marriage viewpoint can give us "refreshed eyes" into our own marriages.
Shalasha
Scott and I have known each other for about 9 years, due
to us growing up in the same town as well as having some of the same
friends. However, we have only been dating for almost two years (March 28) and I have to give all the credit to him for making "us" happen.
I
can remember it like yesterday: I
was sitting on my bed, I opened my
facebook page and saw that I had a friend request from Scott. I was
shocked and excited at the same time, I had not saw or heard anything
from him in a couple years.
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| Natalie & Scott |
I
accepted and as soon as I accepted I received a facebook message...and it went
from there. We messaged each other back and forth for a couple of weeks
and then he asked if I could come over and chat in person with him. DUH...OF
COURSE...LOL...so I went over and we reconnected like we had not missed a beat
out of all of the years we had not talked.
Well, my many dates at his home, eventually flourished
into him asking me not to vanish out of his life again for years like
before. As time went on and we
started our thing called a relationship, which was so perfect in the beginning,
became rocky and when I say rocky I mean rocky.
Like I stated
earlier, Scott and I have only been seriously dating for right at two years and
in these two years, we have had some major trials and tribulations. There
were times I didn't know why we were even together. But now that I look
back at it...GOD knew.
Scott tells
me all the time that God put me in his life to help him and now I truly see
that. Since we have made it
through the storms, Scott sees that “yes” there is a God and all you have to do
is give your situation to him and he'll make it all right.
Scott now has stopped a lot of negative worldly things he
use to do. He goes to church faithfully, pays his tithes faithfully, and he has
started praying openly to the Lord and he has also committed himself to joining
the church that we both attend.
I have to say that as I'm typing this, tears come to my
eyes and roll down my face because I've seen this young man grow in the Lord
and become the man that God wants him to be.
So when asked
what our relationship is built on, its the Father, the one and only Jesus
Christ, because without him, "we" would not be and we would not be
were we are spiritually in him.
As our love grew stronger in both each and the Lord, Scott
told me that he told God that he now was committed to him, but wanted to be
committed to me as well in the right manner (his way).
On January
1, 2012 in Fort Lee, VA, as the clock struck 12 midnight Scott and I said
“HAPPY NEW YEAR” to each other. Then he dropped down on one knee (in front of
my mother, two sisters, my brother-in-law, nephews and niece) and asked me if I
would do the honor of marrying him and becoming his wife. I was so
overwhelmed with joy, I did not answer in the beginning (lol) and he stated
humbly, “ Well is this a yes?” and I said excitedly “OF COURSE!”.
We are now here at the stage of our lives of planning a
wedding and man I tell you I'm already stressed, however I know with God all
things are possible; and with work, planning a wedding, enjoying time with
family/friends everything will still work its way out and we will have the most
AMAZING wedding ever which will be on March 23, 2013.
With marriage
I know comes a relationship deeper than just boyfriend and girlfriend, in which
goals, aspirations, and a commitment to God takes place. So with this
said, Scott and have definitely picked up from when we were just boyfriend and
girlfriend to now fiancée’s continuing with our goals.
I believe
setting goals for a marriage (or really anything) is essential, because I know
that after marriage everything will not just be fine. There will still be
moments in which we will want to give up but WE WILL NOT!!!.
Giving up in God's eyesight is not an option. So
simple goals we have set for ourselves is to first realize that we are both
individuals and should have goals for ourselves which leads to a bigger goal
for "us" whether it be short or long term. One thing we do already is a monthly
calendar that we place on the refrigerator. Because my schedule is so
busy Scott suggested I not only do a calendar for me but for him as well, so he
can know what's going on (which has helped out a lot).
Another thing
that we do is to tell each other we love one another consistently, we show
affection (by touching each other) consistently; and we do this because its
what makes us happy. Oh, a big thing Scott does that I love is he leaves me
love notes around the house and when I get up in the morning that's one of the
first things I see.
We also vowed to go out to eat once a week (and not it
doesn't have to be anywhere fancy every time). But those are just small
goals.
One of our
bigger goals after our marriage in March of next year is to start trying for
our first child.
Another goal we have for five years down the road is to
build a home.
The biggest goal of them all, which is long term, is to
continuously build our relationship on God's foundation.
To make a
long story short, having goals whether they are long or short truly helps a
relationship out. I know making goals has helped our relationship and we
will continue to make them so when we are in our 60's or 70's (Lords will) we
can look back and say look what the Lord did for us and we did it step by step.
Just remember God is a God of ORDER!!!
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY BLOGGERS!!!!
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Natalie Gause
