Does society uplift divorce?

The media is usually a buzz when celebrities divorce. The readers learn all about the ups and downs of the marriage, the financial war, custody battles, and even “dirt” on the people involved.

The most recent celebrity divorce however had another component in the spotlight, religion.  Of course I am referencing to the recent divorce of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes. Scientology is said to be the main reason that Katie Holmes wanted to divorce her husband of five years.

 

Building your relationship with your future spouse, you should ensure that you are building upon a stable foundation. You should ensure that you and your future spouse have aligned values and religious views. Differing views of religion go far beyond attending weekly sessions at church. It will affect the way you live your life, most of all it can affect your walk with God.

Riding on the divorce train a new T.V. show also had three Ex-Wives of Celebrities.  These wives were sort of bragging that they were “once” married to these stars and each even gave a list of positive attributes of their ex-husband.

Hmm…

Most celebrities marry in hast, for fun, to prove a point, or just because.

Marriage is a Holy partnership instituted and ordained by God for the lifelong relationship between husband and wife.

Planning to marry should take deep thought, laying out your deal busters, and most importantly prayer.

Viewing social media displaying  divorce can be discouraging to those who are facing issues in their own marriage. It seems to be so widely accepted, easy, and gives you a fresh start. However, don’t let the pressure of the world affect your marriage and most importantly your faith. Divorce is not a fresh start. If you don’t handle the issues that lead you to divorce you can easily end up in a similar or worse situation with your next spouse.

If you are facing a time of distress in  your marriage, I would encourage you to seek martial support you’re a pastor or Christian counselor. Take time and make a promise to honestly face your marriage issues. You must be willing to compromise, and actually makes changes to ensure that both parties are happy.

Is any marriage perfect? No, life is not perfect. We are not perfect, but God never gave up on us. Therefore, we should not give up on our marriages.

Here is a  helpful reading :

·      How to Avoid Divorce by Dr. S. Cole


Book Suggestion :

Breaking the Cycle of Divorce: How Your Marriage Can Succeed Even if Your Parents' Didn'tBy: John Trent Ph.D. 

Marriage is  a labor of  love, it takes work, time, and commit to allow it to grow.   I hope you are able to use these insights to create and/or maintain your "Loving Lasting Marriage". In addition, Pray together and Seek God together if you are seeking your Loving Lasting Marriage.

Shalasha

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Have you ever considered Divorce ?

I am sure you are reading this because you are head over heels in love with your spouse and you don’t have ANY problems, right?

Have you and your spouse ever considered Divorce?

Did you know?

Divorce statistics in the United States

To avoid divorce we must understand the reasons behind divorce.

The Top 10 Reasons People Divorce

As you read the #1 reason for Divorce is Financial Reasons!  

How do you and your spouse handle financial issues?

1.                    Is it Yours and Mine or Ours? :  How do you view the money that is brought into your household.  Viewing the income you both bring to your family, as “ours” will eliminate some of the division of money issues.  

2.                    Are you on the same page?:  Do you and your spouse have common financial goals ? Communicate with your spouse your financial desires and stick to your agreements.

3.                    Seek Professional Guidance: In these tough economical times sometimes finances are a huge issue. If you have major issues with your finances seek help with a financial counselor or debt consultation firm.

4.                    Communication: With any martial issue communication is key. Talk and listen to what your spouse has to say and take steps to compromise.

5.                    Pre-Marriage Debt- Many times people get married and are aware of financial issues that already brewing. If you married someone who already had financial issues ranging from school debt, credit card debit, or even child support payments you cannot expect these debits to disappear.  Be supportive and help your spouse concur their debt so that your marriage can continue to grow.

Here are some biblical views of divorce:  Divorce and Remarriage

With any issues that cause you and your spouse to consider Divorce, remember that positive communication is needed. If you and your spouse reach a point that you are considering Divorce don’t give up on your relationship. Seek Guidance from a professional, a church leader, or marriage educator. Remember that marriage is a Labor of Love. Most importantly Pray together and seek God together if you are seeking your “Loving Lasting Marriage”.

Shalasha