Romans 8:28 : And we know that all
things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called
according to his purpose. (KJ)
I feel blessed to be able to share
this spiritual encouragement with you today. This is my second week of my
journey. A journey to help myself through helping others create and/or maintain "A Loving Lasting Marriage". I hope that this blog can continue to be a blessing
to you. This week, our spiritual encouragement was written by a guest blogger.
Here is some information about him:
Kevin B. Bullard, the husband half of
Marriage Works!, is passionately taking a stand for healthy and functional
marriages. He and his wife, Cetelia are seasoned marriage educators in North Carolina, and are
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Where am I that I don't see him working anymore? /
Can a man go so far that he
doesn't feel the presence of his closest
friend? / What about God?[1]
What About God?
I do quite a bit of
marriage coaching and pre-marriage education. While I enjoy doing both and
always come away pumped up and challenged, neither one of them affects me quite
like performing a wedding ceremony. I consider being able to officiate a
ceremony an honor, and take it very seriously.
Recently while going
over the ceremony outline I give to engaged couples, I was once again struck
with how important it is that a couple build their marriage with God as the
foundation. While there are plenty of marriages existing without God as the
foundation, there’s that doesn’t mean everything is kosher. God is the creator
of marriage, and without him, marriage doesn’t have it’s full vigor. While the
husband and wife may love, honor, and serve one another, there’s still
something missing: the love of God, which is unconditional, never fades, suffers
long, keeps giving, and looks for the good. Without the God, a marriage has
form, but no power. That’s only brought by his presence.[2]
A Mac, Parallels, and Windows
I’m an IT consultant
by day, and a recent illustration from work aptly describes a marriage without
God.
A
student came into the area where I work reporting a problem with software on
his computer. He had a Mac, but needed to run software on his machine that was
only made for PCs. His teacher rightly advised him to buy software called
Parallels that would allow him to run the Windows operating system on his Mac.
Following her counsel, the student bought, installed, and fired up Parallels.
Next, he put in the disk he needed for class. That’s when he ran into trouble.
The student was having difficulty getting his machine to recognize the software
on the disk. Initially I thought that he had simply installed Parallels
incorrectly, and just needed to reinstall it to get it functioning correctly.
However, after starting up Parallels, I noticed a message that said something
like this: This software cannot detect an
operating system. Of course, problem solved! He had bought and installed
Parallels - the software to run Windows -
but had never bought and installed
Windows itself. Big problem. Parallels is made to run Windows, so without
Windows, Parallels is useless. No matter what he did, the Parallels software
was not going to function as it was made to function without him installing the
Windows operating system.
As I reflected on
the student’s computer issue, it dawned on me that many couples do exactly what
he did: they only do a part of what’s necessary to make things work
right. While finding a mate and having a ceremony of some sort is necessary,
it’s just the beginning.
While there’s nothing wrong with having a great ceremony, couples
must realize that it lacks the power to keep a marriage together for the long
haul. A marriage needs an operating system to run. It needs power. It needs
agape love. In short, it needs God.
What About God?
So, what about
God in your marriage? What role does he play? Is he a first responder or is he
a last resort? Is he an essential component or is he just a spare cog? Is God
the foundation of your marriage or is he just an add-on whenever you feel like
something’s missing? Is God to your marriage what an operating system is to a
computer or is he more like an extraneous software disk that ships with your
computer that’s never been removed from the box?
I encourage you
to discover or re-discover the amazing importance God plays in a marriage. As I
said at the outset, while you can get married without his presence and keep a
union together, it will lack the power and grace all marriages require
to last and be a great blessing to others. It will be missing God’s blessing,
wisdom, knowledge, and help. In short, it will be missing the operating system
it needs to function. Don’t make the mistake of leaving God out of your
marriage. Be alert and discerning to ensure God has a place in your marriage,
and is leading it as it grows. Seek God individually and as a couple. Invite
him into your midst, and aim to please him with your words and deeds. Only
then will your marriage have the proper foundation it needs exist and be
full of power.
[1]
CrystalLewis.com, What About God, http://www.crystallewis.com/2008/lyrics/whataboutgod.html (September 8, 2011)
[2]
Biblos.com, 2 Timothy 3:5, http://bible.cc/2_timothy/3-5.htm
(September 6, 2011)
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