Friday, January 27, 2012

Book Review : The Five Love Languages : The Secret to Love that Lasts By : Dr. Gary Chapman

Ch 1- What Happens to Love after the Wedding

This chapter gets straight to the point! Do you feel that “Love” changes once you get married?  I feel that many people have so much fun with the thought of marriage, planning a wedding, and planning their honeymoon that they focus on “getting” married and not the actual Marriage. 

Once the whirlwind of getting married has died down and you and your spouse are your normal self’s focusing on normal events, problems, and just life. Sometimes people feel that the Love has changed.

Dr. Chapman points out that the fundamentally issue is that   “ People Speak Different Love languages.

He then concludes that there are Five Love Languages. According to Dr. Chapman the Five Love languages are:

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch

Have you often wondered why your spouse does not show you that they Love you like you “imagine” they should? In turn has your spouse ever said why don’t you do X to show me you love me? This is a case of differing Love Languages!

This is a great opportunity to communicate with your Spouse! Often times we forget that our spouse is different than us and has different emotional needs.

Which of these languages do you need Love to be shown to you? Which of these languages do you think your spouse needs to be shown?

My language is Physical Touch.  A hug can make my whole day better and just make me feel better. However, I know that my husband is not . He would rather hear that he is doing a great job, that he is appreciated and loved, so his love language is Words of Affirmation. Allowing each other to express and receive love in our own language will ensure that both of our emotional needs are met. I think that will practice and thought this can be easily applied. 

Do you want to strengthen your communication of Love with your spouse? Have you experienced a rough patch in your marriage where you thought Love was lost?  Or as the man in Chapter 1 experienced even a divorce due dissolving love? I want to encourage you to join me in exploring this book, The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman.

You can also visit The Official Site for this Book and learn more about each love language as well as take assessments to find more about your love language.

Next week I plan to discuss Chapter 2 & Chapter 3. I hope you join me!

Chapman, G., & Chapman, G. D. (2010). The 5 love languages, the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.


  1. Love this help my husband & I go to another level of love after 30+ years of marriage when our empty nest revealed some ruts. I'm currently writing a series on my journey from housewife to homemaker & helpmate, and think linking my readers to you would make a nice compliment.

  2. Merrie- Thank you for sharing that this book helped your marriage. Like you said this book can help those who have years of marriage under their belt, starting out, or anywhere in between ! In addition, you can utilize the information that Dr. Chapman presents before a issue arises. I would love to read your series of your journey. Thank you so much for your support it means a great deal to me.

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  4. I love this book, we also did it as a bible study at church. I am now following you, would love for the follow back.

  5. I noticed that there is a free study guide for this book on the Official Website. If there is enough interest we could do the study guide as a group. Let me know if you are interested !

    7kidsandcounting- I am following you ! I am the oldest of Seven children and one reason I was drawn to your blog ! I would be very interested in working with you in the future :)

  6. Thanks for posting this. I have heard of this book, but not read it. Will have to add it it to my things to read.

    New Networked Blogs follower.


  7. Great post! I read this book about a year ago and totally loved it. I even did a small women's group study on this book and we got so much out of it. It was great!

  8. Thank you CrazyNutsMom and Jessica- This book is great especially using the resources provided by the author. Jessica, please free to add any additional insights as I continue to read and review.

  9. This was interesting! I've read many books of this nature and I feel I learn something new with each approach. I'm similar to you in that hugs are magical, healing and all things good. I also agree that people focus a LOT of thought on the immediacy of planning a wedding ceremony and then they end up blindsided by the reality of Real Life setting in after the honeymoon. Living consciously, sharing books of this nature and communicating are so important.

    I think I'll pick this book up very soon. Thank you so much for sharing!

    - Dawn