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Ch 1- What Happens to Love
after the Wedding
This
chapter gets straight to the point! Do you feel that “Love” changes once you
get married? I feel that many
people have so much fun with the thought of marriage, planning a wedding, and
planning their honeymoon that they focus on “getting” married and not the
actual Marriage.
Once the whirlwind of getting married has died down
and you and your spouse are your normal self’s focusing on normal events,
problems, and just life. Sometimes people feel that the Love has changed.
Dr. Chapman points out that the fundamentally issue
is that “ People Speak Different Love languages.”
He then concludes that there
are Five
Love Languages. According to Dr. Chapman the Five Love languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Have you often wondered why your spouse does not
show you that they Love you like you “imagine” they should? In turn has your
spouse ever said why don’t you do X to show me you love me? This is a case of
differing Love Languages!
This is a great opportunity to communicate with your Spouse! Often times we forget that our spouse
is different than us and has different emotional needs.
Which of these languages do you need Love to be
shown to you? Which of these languages do you think your spouse needs to be shown?
My language is Physical Touch. A hug can make my whole day better and just make me feel better. However, I know that my husband is not . He would rather hear that he is doing a great job, that he is appreciated and loved, so his love language is Words of Affirmation. Allowing each other to express and receive love in our own language will ensure that both of our emotional needs are met. I think that will practice and thought this can be easily applied.
My language is Physical Touch. A hug can make my whole day better and just make me feel better. However, I know that my husband is not . He would rather hear that he is doing a great job, that he is appreciated and loved, so his love language is Words of Affirmation. Allowing each other to express and receive love in our own language will ensure that both of our emotional needs are met. I think that will practice and thought this can be easily applied.
Do you want to strengthen your communication of Love
with your spouse? Have you experienced a rough patch in your marriage where you
thought Love was lost? Or as the
man in Chapter 1 experienced even a divorce due dissolving love? I want to
encourage you to join me in exploring this book, The Five Love Languages: The Secret
to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman.
Next week I plan to discuss Chapter 2 & Chapter
3. I hope you join me!
Shalasha
Chapman, G., & Chapman, G. D. (2010). The 5 love languages, the secret to love that lasts. Northfield Publishing.
Love this book...it help my husband & I go to another level of love after 30+ years of marriage when our empty nest revealed some ruts. I'm currently writing a series on my journey from housewife to homemaker & helpmate, and think linking my readers to you would make a nice compliment.
ReplyDeleteMerrie- Thank you for sharing that this book helped your marriage. Like you said this book can help those who have years of marriage under their belt, starting out, or anywhere in between ! In addition, you can utilize the information that Dr. Chapman presents before a issue arises. I would love to read your series of your journey. Thank you so much for your support it means a great deal to me.
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ReplyDeleteI love this book, we also did it as a bible study at church. I am now following you, would love for the follow back.
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I noticed that there is a free study guide for this book on the Official Website. If there is enough interest we could do the study guide as a group. Let me know if you are interested !
ReplyDelete7kidsandcounting- I am following you ! I am the oldest of Seven children and one reason I was drawn to your blog ! I would be very interested in working with you in the future :)
Thanks for posting this. I have heard of this book, but not read it. Will have to add it it to my things to read.
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Regina
www.thecrazynutsmom.com
Great post! I read this book about a year ago and totally loved it. I even did a small women's group study on this book and we got so much out of it. It was great!
ReplyDeleteThank you CrazyNutsMom and Jessica- This book is great especially using the resources provided by the author. Jessica, please free to add any additional insights as I continue to read and review.
ReplyDeleteThis was interesting! I've read many books of this nature and I feel I learn something new with each approach. I'm similar to you in that hugs are magical, healing and all things good. I also agree that people focus a LOT of thought on the immediacy of planning a wedding ceremony and then they end up blindsided by the reality of Real Life setting in after the honeymoon. Living consciously, sharing books of this nature and communicating are so important.
ReplyDeleteI think I'll pick this book up very soon. Thank you so much for sharing!
- Dawn