Monday, July 30, 2012
Love Equals Respect
Do you Love your spouse? Do you respect them? These two concepts go hand and hand. You must respect to love.
New International Version (NIV)
33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
How do you show your Spouse respect ?
In the article “How to Show your Husband True Respect” by Shannon Nee we learn ways we can ensure that we are respecting our spouse
Here is a review of what S. Nee states is fundamental in respecting your spouse:
1- Complimenting our spouse’s work
2- Appreciate their humor
3- Share their thoughts
4- Let them be themselves
5- Use good timing
6- Be Nice in public
7- Distance the kids
I feel that this list is very accurate. Have you ever noticed a couple in a store arguing with one another or belittling one another? It is a red flag that the couple is experiencing problems in their relationship. Our spouse always want to feel that they are number one in our life. When we listen and validate them we are showing them that we respect what they say and do. Your spouse has to battle the world on a daily basis. Give them somewhere that they can take refugee. Your children will always show your spouse respect if you do. Teaching your child how to respect their mother or father starts at home.
The underlining approach to respect is to treat your spouse in a manner that you would want to be treated.
Give them attention, don’t try to make them change who they are, hold your spouse above others, find a way to communicate without harsh words or tones, and allow your children to see you communicate in a healthy manner.
Wives remember that your Husband has a different communication style than you. He is not going to describe and elaborate. He doesn’t need long drawn out poems to know that you Love him. He does need respect and with your actions he will know that he is loved.